I'm scared...will you do it?

The title of this blog could pretty much sum up most experiences in my life. I am naturally a very nervous person, afraid of most things and new experiences. But this particular phrase applies to a certain early mother experience. It was like the 3rd or 4th day home from the hospital and Mitchell's mom (who we lived with at the time) asked me

"have you given Olivia a bath yet"...
"no, I thought I would wait until her bellybutton stump falls off" I said.
"well you know you can't give her a real bath yet, but you can give her a quick sponge bath".
"yeah maybe we should wait until Mitch gets home from work".


The truth was I was terrified of giving her bath, even a sponge bath. She was so small and I was so afraid of somehow unintentionally hurting her. Not to mention the fact that she hated being naked when she was so new and would scream bloody murder when I just changed her diaper. I also felt like it made me less of a competent mother to admit this especially to Sue who has had 7 babies...I guess I didn't want to let on that I really had no idea what I was doing. Looking back I remember hoping/praying that I would have some time all alone in the house to do things like bathe Olivia because I didn't want the ever present watchful eyes.

It's funny to remember how I isolated myself to avoid feeling like people were then deciding if I was doing a good job or not. Oh the baby blues...they are great! I remember once on a particularly stressful night for Olivia Mitch's mom suggested that maybe we should supplement with formula, maybe she isn't getting enough and she's just so hungry. OHHHHHHHHHHH I was so mad! I was soooo mad, even more mad when Mitch conceded it wouldn't hurt to give her a bottle. I said nothing, probably mumbling something about "oh yeah...maybe" before disappearing to my room where the post partum voices were screaming;


"oh what I am such a terrible mother that I an starving my child....what me and my boobs are not doing a good enough job of nourishing my baby, they think I am terrible because I am just letting her go hungry. I'm sure her boobs always made enough milk to feed her babies".

Oh it's funny now to remember how furious I was at such a simple suggestion. But you know all those left over pregnant hormones swirling around, added to the fact that I was not getting enough sleep, not to mention being a new mother automatically causes a mixture of feelings of inadequacy and defensiveness. We ended up not supplementing with formula until she was almost three months old. Same story she was acting crazy for some inexplicable reason and once again the suggestion of formula came up...I raised the white flag and surrendered. I was completely convinced she was turn her nose up at the chalky lumpy concoction preferring me and my sweet smelling watery milk. No such luck...she sucked it down and while most of it ended up on her instead of in her, one bottle of formula a night seemed to be the ticket to a longer stretch of sleep for me.

Anyway back to the story at hand...the bath. I managed to convince Sue that Mitch would want to be there for her first bath, so we should wait and that seemed like a believable excuse. Those of you who know Mitchell will also know that he is a self appointed expert on all things, yes you read that right...all things. Don't forget that I said "Self-appointed". I remember being afraid that I would be totally annoyed with him during childbirth, afraid he would be telling me that I was doing it wrong or suggest a different way that in his mind would work more effectively. That is my Mitchell, "a regular original know it all". It is rather annoying, however I really believe he honestly thinks he knows how to do everything better...so how can you fault a guy for such conviction. LOL! Well he didn't act that way during childbirth thankfully and spent most of the time being told by the nurses "You look pale, are you okay? Maybe you should sit down". Point being in all of this character analysis is that I knew Mitchell would take over at bath-time and I wouldn't have to do much but follow orders.

Here we are undressing her, notice the look of un-ease in my face

Oh she is angry

So mad she poops

Me trying to follow instruction to clean it up...look at the intense look on Mitch's face. LOL

I don't remember what he said but I am sure it went something like "Emily OMG OMG, hurry clean her up, OMG you should wipe the other way"

(She is so tiny here!!!!! sadface)

All done and still pissed

Oh that first "sponge bath" was a disaster. I guess I didn't take into account how nerve rattling it can be to have to do the most mundane tasks with a screaming frantic newborn. Mitch took over alright but the stress of the baby definitely carried over to both Mitchell and I. And to make matters worse...she pooped, even more craziness ensued to clean her up after that! So after that fiasco I was certainly not eager to do it again and even more leery of having an audience. And a few days later Sue suggested another bath. Her stump had still not fallen off but I could see Sue's point in washing her...newborn babies don't really get dirty per say but they tend to look sweaty and those with hair, greasy. And that is when I said it

"I'm scared...will you do it, I could just watch".

And she did and I did. And Olivia didn't seem to notice or care that Sue had done this a thousand times before with all of her own seven newborn babies... she was just as angry. Which I must admit gave me a little piece of mind that it wasn't me, this is what babies do....alot.

And I miss this. And I wonder if it will be like this if I have other babies, or I will just be at more ease with the next one.

And by "this" I mean new motherhood. I miss feeling nervous and fumbly and wondering if I am doing everything right. Not that I am any expert now by any means...I just have found my groove as far a motherhood goes.

I still freak out occasionally and wonder if I am doing things right, however I know how to relax (most times) as a mother...I know how to deal with Olivia...I recognize how to do things to make everyday life the easiest on me and my baby...oh excuse me babycenter...my toddler. Those first couple of weeks and months feel like a blur, like surviving a whirlwind of emotions, life changes and adjustments. And I miss feeling nervous and excited and happy and crazy...

However with Olivia around and mobile there is never a shortage of craziness!

So I realize....

That most of my posts have to do with motherhood...which who would have ever guessed would be such an endless well of inspiration? But it's my blog and motherhood is what occupies pretty much all of my time. Which I am sure to those of you who read my blog who find yourself childless are thinking "Oh another post about Olivia, or another rambling about trying to find yourself after having a baby, or more reflections on newborness....


But it's my blog...and it seems to be hard to think of other things other than this little whirling dervish that cyclones around me all day long. She is such a hurricane of activity and emotions these days. It's like living with someone who is bi-polar and constantly PMS-ing. She has definite opinions already and since she is limited with not being able to tell me always what's wrong or what she wants....frustration ensues, she for sure has a little temper. There are way to many family members on both sides this could have been inherited from...the girl didn't stand a chance! This does not mean she doesn't try to communicate...she is talking her own little baby language 24-7...my baby is never quiet...she even blurts things out and babbles in her sleep. My baby development emails tell me that between 12 and 14 months babies start to dream very actively, this seems to be an understatement with miss Liv. Being unfortunate enough to have to share a room with her I know very well how much she thrashes around and yells out in her sleep....ALL....NIGHT.....LONG!!!!! And she does say some words; mommy, daddy, nana, boppa (grandpa), baby, puppy, hi, bye, wawa (water), gabby (yo gabba gabba), no, what's that, up, bathy. She is such a funny girl. Happy and beaming one moment and tragically upset about something the next...like I said bi-polar and PMS!



She just seems so active. I rationalize that most babies probably are this way at this age. Rationalize because the thought of her inheriting her father's ADHD seems way too exhausting...I can only handle one hyperactive person at a time thanks! But she is taking full advantage of the new found independence in walking without stumbling...she seems to almost run everywhere she goes. She can be at times wobbly but that doesn't cause her to slow down to steady herself she just powers through. She was this way with crawling as well. Sometimes her little legs and knees would be moving way too fast for her hands to keep up with and she would inadvertently take a nose dive into the floor. But she is busy, busy, busy and the child doesn't have a cautious or fearful bone in her body. Mitch's mom always says "oh Mitchell was the same way at her age", which causes me to cringe to think about living with these two crazies for life!


She told me a story about Mitchell when he was about 4 years old. He was supposed to be taking a nap when Sue got a phone call from the next door neighbor. "ummm your son is sitting on the roof and your daughter looks like she is headed out there are well"... Mitchell had somehow figured out how to take the screen off his upstairs bedroom window and was making a break for it...Ashley tailing him from behind! Ashely would have been 2. She said she almost had a heart attack when she ran upstairs to see Mitch just chilling on the roof and Ashley with one leg out the window. Of all those Benveniste kids the fact that it was Mitchell and Ashley is just too fitting and funny! Is this what I have to look forward to? After her daring escape from the stroller a few weeks ago, it's become clear that she thinks she's invincible! Besides keeping me constantly on my toes...she is just about the cutest, funniest, most charming, lovely, beautiful, entertaining person I have ever met. And it just goes to show that people are born with personalities all their own...because she is definitely nothing like her mother!


Here is a list of things about Miss baby.


*She loves babies, and by babies I mean baby dolls, she drags them everywhere.

*She calls all kids, even ones way older than her "baby".

*She loves Yo Gabba Gabba and her TooDoo doll Nana found for her
(have you tried to find yo gabba gabba toys....it's impossible!)


*She hates being in a stroller.

*She loves string cheese (I don't love the constipation).

*She has taken to dragging her taggie blankey around everywhere like Linus.

*She loves to play with her Aunties and shrieks whenever she sees Auntie Ash.

*She loves Elmo, calls him "Mo"

*She is a great napper, two naps a day for two hours each.

*She likes to climb on everything and anything but has not figured out how to climb out of her
crib. I don't think the thought has occurred to her.

*She loves baths and has a babydoll in the bath that she washes while I wash her...like mimics
everything I do, it's really cute.

*She knows how to brush her hair and is trying to brush her teeth.

*She is crazy sensitive about her ears being touched...freaks out. This could be from me
traumatizing her by trying to get her earrings out.

*She tickles herself with the tag on her "Stuffy" (stuffed Giraffe that is her fave). She rubs it on
her ears and also her feet.


*She has 5 teeth and is about to have 2 more anytime now!

*Her little teeth are kinda crooked, it's so cute though....probably from the pacifier.They are also
like crazy big! lol!

*She loves soothie pacifiers...I should probably wean her off of them...but it makes me feel like
she is still a little baby with them in her mouth so I can't bear the thought.


*She has a real "Nana" addiction. Nana being my mom...she LOVES Nana probably more then
me.


*When she gets really excited she dances and then breaks out in this funny little march.

*When she wakes up in the morning all I hear is Mommy, Mommy, Mommy, Mommy...Uppy
Mommy.

*Whoever gets her up from naps she becomes glued to for at least an hour....no one else can hold
her and she cries if they put her down or try to hand her off.

*She loves chip clips. You know those plastic clips you wrap a bag of chips up with so they don't
get stale. She knows which kitchen drawer they are kept in and always has one in hand.

*She loves chocolate chips...who doesn't?

*She loves being naked...tries her best to get away from me after bathtime


*She hates being in the carseat unless it happens to be out of the car...in which case she could
entertain herself for hours getting in and out of it and trying to buckle the straps.


Oh there is probably tons more...but I can't think of anything else...but when I do you know I will be a lame-o talks only about her kid mom and i'll blog about it!

Shhhhhhh don't tell my Mother...

Don't tell her because she would be horrified by what I am about to confess. I wish I had explored the whole co-sleeping thing more. When Olivia was a newborn and we napped during the day it was always together, side by side...I loved it. She spent all her naps in my bed and only slept in the crib at night. Actually if we are being totally honest...as a newborn at night she slept in her swing until she was about 4 months old. Hey you may care about what all the sleep experts say about these "motion junkie" babies...but back then I was just trying to prolong her asleep time any way I could. She was in that swing swaddled so tightly it was a wonder she could breathe, the swing going full blast with the classical music playing loud enough to drown out Mitchell's snoring and of course don't forget the pacifier.



Sometimes you just gotta do what you can, and at that time we relied pretty heavily upon the swing at nighttime. It's funny how you forget things, because I had forgotten altogether we even had a swing. But we used it practically every night up until about 4 months when I decided she needed to get used to her crib and it was a fairly smooth transition. Because no matter what bad habits you may establish in a newborn (swing sleeping) the good news is they adjust beautifully at that age...probably the only time in human life that change isn't that big of a deal.



Anyways again I seem to have gotten off on some tangent. When what I mean to talk about is how I wish Olivia could sleep with me. Before moving home I was used to sleeping next to another person. Now I am really not much of a cuddler, but just having someone next to you is something you get used to and I had slept next to Mitch for the past 2 years. Then Olivia came into my life and we slept together every night for 9 months...you know pregnancy and all. And then naptime after she was born. I miss her alot at nighttime, even when she is just a few feet away in her crib. She is soooo on the go all the time these days, "very very busy" is what Mitchell's mom and grandmother call it. She will cuddle up to you when she is tired or hurt but other than that she's happy to just explore this new freedom of hers and it makes me feel pretty sad. Breastfeeding used to be a nice way to connect with her even after she became mobile. She would settle down and be calm for however long she wanted to nurse. But that stopped at 9 months. When she weaned herself, because believe me it was not my choice, I felt very hurt and sad. I felt rejected and unnecessary and I missed my baby and that time together. So after that I began to hold her at night. When I went to bed I would pick up her little sleeping body, take her over to my bed and just lay down and hold her.



They say that just a mother's embrace can calm a restless child, ease any fear, settle any uneasiness in their baby. This is true. This is why that even adults seem to want their mothers when they are scared, sick or hurt. I know I have never called out for my mother as much as I did when I was in labor with Olivia. She couldn't do any more than Mitchell as far as easing the pain. But just having her there to reassure me that it was okay, that I could do this was more believable coming from her. We all need our mothers but I have found that I need Olivia just as much. When I have had a rough day, when I feel stressed out or sad I just wait for nighttime. I wait for the time when I can hold her while she sleeps. Feeling each rise and fall of her chest reassures me that it's okay, that I can do this. A calm washes over me and I just relax. I have found that as a mother I need Olivia probably just as much as she needs me. Nothing can ease my troubles as well as that heavily asleep little body molded against me feeling how her life connects to mine. How she is an extension of me that reassures me that I will never have to feel alone again. I am just so in love with that crazy baby...I hope she never leaves me :)

Another post about my hair...

Those like 5 of you who actually read my blog probably only log on to see pictures of Olivia. I mean I don't kid myself, I know that she is the star of this website. I know I mostly look at other people's blogs to look at pictures of their kids. But that being said I also use the "blog" to ramble and entertain the thought that someone might actually enjoy my "clever" repartee. It's an outlet, like a journal. It seems journaling feels more gratifying at times knowing that somebody might read it. But like the title implies this post is about me. More specifically about my hair and my long suffering quest to grow it out. So I don't know how entertaining it will be...I mean how entertaining can hair be? Which got me thinking about why I want long hair anyway.

When I graduated from High School I had really long hair. It was past my bra line and I had dreams of growing it down my butt...it didn't happen. I cut it to my shoulders right before I went away to college and from there ended up with a really short a-line bob. This was courtesy of watching "With Honors" way too many times and becoming obsessed with not only Brendan Fraiser but also with the "Courtney Blumenthal" character and her sassy shorter in the back and longer in the front do'.

This was the look for me, this was the new college me! Having never had anything but blonde hair my entire life what possessed me with the nerve to dye it practically black I still can't imagine. I really don't remember thinking twice about it...just did it and then shocked my whole family when I showed up at Easter looking nothing like the blonde Emily they all knew. My sister in law actually saw me from afar and was confused as to who this girl with her family was.

And so it began....my love of coloring my hair. No don't get confused I had dyed it many times prior to this but it was always just a WAY lighter blonde than I was naturally blessed with, never anything but blonde. I kept it dark the rest of the time I was at college that year and then when I came home for summer my high school long distance boyfriend let me know that he preferred it not only longer but also blonde. What did I do? Bleached it back blonde and cut it short pixie style. Ehhhh can't give them all exactly what they want, he can have it blonde but it's gonna be short. Also bleaching out black hair is not a kind process and well cutting most of it off seemed the only way to not have that frazzled fried look.

The next ten years I have bounced between blonde, red and brown. However the length of my hair never really reached much longer that my jawline. Then I got pregnant and my hair grew like a weed. It was a novelty to have my hair grow so fast. My hair went from a chin length bob to past my shoulders in 9 months! It was long! Then after Olivia I got in that funk and needed a change....I cut off a significant amount. Then I dyed it dark. Then I decided I wanted it long again...and not just as long as it was before but really long. Here is my theory as to why I want it long, really long. My pregnancy with Olivia was a huge surprise and I spent the better part of that pregnancy terrified of where my life was headed and just what kind of stability I would find in my life with my new baby. A fear I still struggle with even though she is now a year old...but that is another blog altogether.

Anyways I didn't feel prepared or at peace with what was happening with my life or my body when I was pregnant with Olivia. Every girl, at least every girl I knew growing up, imagines what it would be like to be pregnant. You see those pregnant woman at the store or out and about and you think "oh one day when I am pregnant I am going to be one of these cute woman, with a cute belly and beautiful hair and cute little pregnant clothes". These thoughts are very romantic notions because you find once you actually are pregnant....you don't really feel all that cute or attractive most of the time. Add to that the fact that I was not mentally prepared to be pregnant and well that makes the precarious state of your pregnant body all the harder to accept. So here is why I want long hair...stupid as it sounds. I plan on next time around, if there is a next time, that I will be one of those beautiful pregnant women. I will have the long silky locks that graze my baby bump....again some stupid romantic hippy-like mother earth type notion of what pregnancy should be...but hey this is my dumb notion, I'm sure you have your own. Think Nicole Richie...

Only I will never have a face or arms that thin...especially while pregnant....again another blog another day! So one day when I am planning on it and my hair is long I will get to be pregnant again. And for those of you who remember how much complaining I did while pregnant the first time...this next time will be different. Whenever that next time will be....

Until then I will be growing my hair out and looking like this...

Drew is my hair style icon BTW....only my hair will be brown.....sigh....

A most heartbreaking sign....

That my baby is getting too old! On her 1 year old birthday my weekly babycenter update email was titled; "Your 12 month old toddler". You see from conception you can subscribe to these updates. They tell you what is happening with the growth and development of your fetus and then once the baby is born. They are usually titled "Your (insert months here) old Baby". So I knew there was no turning back once the "baby" turned to "toddler". (And imagine a dramatic cry of NOOOOOOOOO!!!!!!! here)

So a month ago today miss Squids turned one year old. The whole month before I found myself in a very bad mood most days. Planning a birthday party did not help...it seemed with every new detail I got more and more stressed out and irritable. Why you ask? I think it was my subconscious passive aggressive way of being very very sad about this growing up milestone. Where did the time go? How was she crawling, walking, talking, communicating her thoughts and needs to me? Where did my squishy little mound of newborn baby flesh go...how did that slip away in what seemed like a most sudden way?

Being a new mother is soooo not fair...as in new mother, never had a baby before. No one tells you to stop, to breathe, to slow down and see what is happening in this little constantly evolving being. And because you have never had a baby before you don't know to do it. Those first 3-5 months are just about adjusting, surviving, finding the energy you never knew you had to just put one foot in front of the other, to blink, to inhale and exhale... even in pure exhaustion. For the first time in your life you really can't be selfish...not even in the slightest sense of the word. Going to the bathroom or taking a shower feels like your only moments of free time. I remember when my little sister first came home to visit after having her little Liam. There was a night where she was mentally just spent. She had tried to put the baby to bed for what probably seemed like an eternity and in that rare "he's quiet, he's still, is he asleep", she put him down. Moments later I heard the shower going and not too soon after I heard the unmistakable cries of a frantic newborn. Her husband was out on the couch....

"Liam is crying", I say.
"Oh I think Katie is in there with him", he replies.
"Nah, she is in the shower".
"Oh, Okay", he says quietly and heads towards the bedroom.

And I smiled. I sooooo remember waiting for the calm before the storm type quiet in Olivia. Knowing she is not really asleep but momentarily checked out...so I better book it and get in that shower before she realizes I tricked her into quietness for a few moments. That way once she realizes she has been duped Mitch will have to get her...cause I need a moment to myself, I need a shower...even if I already had a shower, even if I already had three! And it is things like this that define new motherhood.

I know I spent alot of times admiring her sleeping face. I know I spent countless hours nursing her while gazing into her gently dozing off eyes, holding her petite hand, amazed that this little thing exists because of me. I know I kissed every inch of her small body and marveled at the perfectness and completeness of its tiny size. I know I appreciated her being a newborn, I know I did. But what stands out most clearly in mind is the exhaustion...physical and probably more significant mental. Because becoming a mother really is a metamorphosis. Once that change starts everything changes and you just aren't "you" the way you were before. And until you become a mother that will never make as much perfect sense as it does once you have a child of your own.

"The moment a child is born, the mother is also born. She never existed before. The woman existed, but the mother, never. A mother is something absolutely new"

I guess I realize now that no matter how much time you spent admiring that little thing as a newborn...it will never be enough time...it will always seem too short of a time...you will always look back and wish you had spent more time with patience as you rocked the fussy baby to sleep. I know I spent many times rocking her to sleep with so many feelings of desperation,

"Oh my gosh, OH MY GOSH....she is never going to go to sleep, my child IS JUST NEVER going to go to sleep. She is trying to make me lose my mind....and it's working".

I think at times a new mother is completely justified in believing that that baby just might be some sort of diabolical genius...constantly scheming on how he or she can drive her mother to the brink of insanity. Completely ridiculous to think that a newborn knows exactly the extent of the frustration she is causing...but I will tell you from experience that it seems like it at times.

Now that time is gone. She now puts herself to sleep and her cries of protest are much shorter and don't bother me the way they did as a new mother. And there is so much more calm and peace in me as a mother...but I miss those first few months now. I long to hold her and not have her try to squirm free. I feel the sense of tears coming on when I try to remember the exact sound of her newborn cry, a cross between a duck and a kitten. I feel a dull ache in my heart to know that I will never breastfeed her again...maybe other babies but never my Olivia. So much so that I still have my Boppy right next to my bed, even when I stopped nursing at 9 months. I just cannot believe how fast she has grown into a little person. How everyday she moves farther and farther away from her babyhood and into her childhood.

And it makes me sad.

And it makes me happy.

And it makes me grateful.

And it makes me regretful.

And it makes me....

Well I guess it makes me a mother.

Mop-ey Top-ey

So Olivia was a baby blessed with a lot of hair. Something I should have known if the old wives tale really is true, lots of heartburn during pregnancy....baby will have a lot of hair. That and of course the fact that I am sure the Italian/Spanish genes are strong and those Benveniste babies are hairy! Olivia had downy dark hair on more places than just her head. Her shoulders, back, bum and ears all had a subtle dusting of dark fur. She had little wolverine ears, Mitch called them her "ewalk ears". Thankfully that fur rubbed off by the time she reached about 6 months but the hair on her head never really changed. Many people told me that her hair would rub off or fall out, but it never did. It thinned out a bit on the sides but never fell out completely. It did turn from a dark almost black color to a now light golden brown. But the point being she has always had a head full of hair...and it has always been rather unruly.

This messy mop-top has never bothered me much, I love her crazy hair. But it bothers my mother and I think it bothers Mitch's family. They seem to always want to tie it back in a hair tie, pin it back with a clip or use a headband to try and contain it. I however enjoy her au natural look...I don't see the need for accessories. It seems like bald baby girls seem to be the ones to most benefit from the bows, the flowers, the headbands...etc. Olivia is far from bald, I have already trimmed her hair four times in the last year. Now I would not say I am totally against hair accessories because I have to admit that the small bow, headband or clip does look cute, I just don't ever put them in her hair. And I must admit that when I found out out that my baby would be a girl the first thought in my head was "Oh she is not going to one of those babies with bows the size of Texas on her head". I remember seeing pictures of friends and their baby girls and they always had some huge flower or bow in their hair and I would just cringe!

I remember expressing my disdain for frilly headbands and bows to all of Mitch's family before I left for a trip to visit my brother's family in Idaho. I was still pregnant and my sweet well meaning sister in law, who is the mother of 4 boys, upon arriving presented me with a huge stockpile of bows and headbands. What can I say bows are big in the Mormon culture...the bigger the better! Not to mention the fact that poor Chelle has probably hoped and prayed for a girl and everytime is blessed with yet another boy! She is deprived of any and all things girly and frilly! Here I am with a baby girl in my oven and completely opposed to all frills! I have since been more open-minded about girly things. If there is a choice between pink, blue, green, yellow in anything you can bet I have to get the pink one! But still not a huge fan of bows. I seem to find myself alone in this preference...every friend or relative with a girl always have some big flower headband or bow on their mostly bald head. It has recently occurred to me why I tend to be anti-bow. One word, two syllables......Childhood.

Let me elaborate. I was a bald baby. I mean I had a fuzzy little head but real hair didn't seem to sprout up until I was a year old. My mom would place teeny bows on my head getting them to stick with karo syrup. Okay all well and fine, they were cute bitty little bows but then I got older and my hair was never without some sort of bow...usually some huge monstrosity of a thing on my head. I don't remember hating them, but I also don't remember really having a choice in the matter....I was not complete with a bow. I had friends whose pigtails and ponytails were completed with just one of those goody balled elastics. I tried to google it to get a picture but I have had no luck. Remember they were like a big elastic with a metal pin in the center that made two loops on either side. Then on the end of each loop was a marble looking plastic ball and to attach to a ponytail you wrap it around the hair and pull the ball over the other ball. I don't know if I am explaining this right....but hopefully you get the picture. Anyways I liked these but I never wore them...I always had bows!

Looking back at pictures it's like eekkk gads look at the size of those bows! And I actually had someone I had known since 1st grade sign my senior yearbook and they mentioned the bows! It went something along the lines of "Oh Emily I will always remember seeing you on the playground in elementary school with those great big bows in your hair". I was taken back I remember when I first read that....this person was more of a schoolhood life-long acquaintance than a friend and my bows made that much of an impression on him? And it seemed more like an underhanded way to make fun of me than any sort of fond nostalgic compliment. I think then and there I subconsciously knew I would never make my child memorable for anything embarrassing! I guess I would like Olivia to be at an age where she decides if she wants to wear something that could be cringe-worthy as an adult. So if Olivia wants to wear "great big bows" in her hair one day, she can....until then I mostly prefer her head to be as God intended it to be!

Party fit for a squid princess!

So Saturday March 13, 2009 was a big day for the Larsen-Benveniste family. Olivia Marie turned one year old on Tuesday March 9th and Saturday was the day of the big party! We traveled under the sea for our princess Squidlivia! Who was there you ask? What did we do you ask? What was there to eat you might say? Were there presents? Were there kids? What kind of cake did we eat? Did everyone have fun? Where the decorations fabulous, they must have been you decide...well take a look for yourself?

Squid/Octopus Cake made by Mama Emily!

Our Fishy friends



The Cake and favors



Happy birthday!



Candles all lit and looking fabulous!


Nana amid the decor





Mama Emily


Nautical masks painted by Gma Sparkle and Aunties Megs and Ash



Hanging coral


Lovely food



Fishy cookies



Gummy fish and sharks





Just a part of the great fruit Nana brought



Presents


Of course Finding Nemo was playing



New bike from Gma Sparkle and Gpa Tony



Uncle Mike has high hopes for his Olivia and his alma mater



Toy plane


So many presents, she was a bit overwhelmed


Playing with uncle Mike

Stacking blocks from Nana and Gpa Larsen

Toys, toys TOYS!!!!!!!!!!!


Where to begin?


Kisses from Mama


Loud obnoxious toys from Auntie Ash...who else?

Poor baby was so tired!


Rachel and Connor
Tam came too!


Auntie Ally


Great Uncle Wes




Uncle Mike


Great Auntie Sarena




Auntie Ally, Rachel and Tam



Auntie Zoe :)



Uncle Bogie :)


Mama and her two BFFs



Connor



Great Grandma Anita


Gpa Larsen and Nana

I think Ash liked the pasta salad

Rachel and Gma Sparkle like the wings


Tam and Aunties Megs and Ally



Great Auntie Michelle, GG Anita, Great Auntie Sarena and Uncle Mike



Birthday Girl all changed and ready for cake!

Squidlivia and Mama

Nana and Liv

Everyone sang Happy Birthday!


Singing, singing!


Olivia wondering why Mama is crying! Shhhhh I don't think anyone knew I choked up!



I blew out the candles for her!


She didn't know what to think! She just wanted the sea animal toys!



Trying to get her to attack the cake!



Again only wanted to play with the toys



Sea horsey! Untouched cupcake :(


I'm supposed to eat this?



Little lady keeping it tidy



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Auntie Ash trying to inspire some eating...



This is as messy as it got!

The end! Happy Birthday baby!

So that was the day! We all had a great time and Olivia was as per usual spoiled with gifts by everyone who came and even those who couldn't come sent gifts! She is well loved little Squidey and I cannot believe I am a mother of a 1 year old!