Thursday, February 24, 2011

Sometimes I just like to be alone...

"Sometimes I just like to be alone and think...think my thoughts"....ha ha what's the quote from? One of my most favorite TV shows of all time! Oh there is so much happening these days folks!!!! So much!

I'll break it down real quick for ya!

1. Mitch's parents and youngest sister Megan are moving to the bay area, Millbrae. It's about 15 minutes south of San Francisco.
2.Grandma Charlene moved to Utah.
3. Mitch's job has been out of contracts for almost 2 months now....which means no money....which means we are poor!!!
4. Mitch's heart has been acting funny and we are waiting on results from some new EKGs and blood tests.
5. Olivia has had a cold on and off since we moved into this house....which makes me wonder if there is something going on with this house that causes her health problems. I mean she isn't like super sick or anything....just a lingering cold that doesn't ever really seem to go away? But I guess it's also cold and flu season....idk, is it normal for a toddler to have so many colds? She hardly ever got sick when I lived with my parents.
6. Olivia is almost 2!!!!!!!!! what the hell!!!!?????
7. My sister Katie announced that she was pregnant....and due in August.

Okay so now you are up to speed I suppose. What do I want to elaborate on? The Benveniste move?

So when I first heard that the Benvenistes were moving, like a month ago, I felt like someone knocked the wind out of me. I don't like change, I don't like new things, different things....even when it doesn't seem like the change really affects me that intimately. I mean it's not me moving....but I just don't like it. I don't know why but the whole them moving 2 hours away really made me inexplicably sad for a while, still kinda sad about it. I guess maybe because I lived with them for a year and it was the first place Olivia lived it felt like my other home. It makes me sad that Olivia is used to seeing her grandparents whenever she wants and she is used to Megan being her main babysitter. I guess that changing is sad. And you know Mitch and I have been together a long time. I have been going over to visit with his family for like 8 years, the idea that they won't just be a short drive away...it makes me so sad. You know Mitch and I are not married...who knows if we ever will, but I really see Tony and Sue as parents. I see Mike, Karen, Ashley, Allison, Adam, Alyssa and Megan as my brothers and sisters. And you know I don't see all the siblings that often but Tony and Sue's house was the the gathering place where when everyone was there....it was home and it brought us all together. It was nice to have that place nearby.

I know it isn't the house that makes a family or home. But to me familiarity is a big deal and I was super familiar with that house; it's sounds, it's smells, it's furniture and wall hangings...I really loved the backyard. I don't know? Ever since I heard they were moving I think I have been subconsciously distancing myself from them. I just have not been going over there that often and I have not asked Megan to babysit in over a month. It just feels too sad to see the house all in boxes.....I want to get used to not having someone who can so easily babysit so I have not called Megan. This is how I am unfortunately....this is how I deal with change or people leaving....I keep myself away so it doesn't hurt so much when they go...."And a rock feels no pain and an island never cries".

Okay moving on....what else is worth detailing?

Well I don't really want to admit this....don't really want to talk about it....but I feel pretty weird about my sister being pregnant. Mitch asked me if I was jealous and I don't think it's exactly that so much, because I am happy for her, who doesn't love a new baby. But it's a feeling I'm sure is closely related to jealousy...like if jealously had a less intense more mellow, more sheepishly pathetic 2nd cousin....that's what I'm feeling. I'm not proud to admit it, it's stupid really. It's like a dull ache in my womb, in my ego. I don't think it's normal when younger siblings do things before you. I don't think anyone else can understand how it feels when a younger sibling gets married before you...unless they have also been an older unmarried sibling at that younger sibling's wedding. I know that if my brother called me up and told me my sister in law was pregnant I would not feel this way. I mean I did have a baby before Katie...much to my family's initial dismay that I got "Knocked up" and then didn't even get married! c'est la vie! I mean I knew that Katie would probably have another baby before I did....I mean I expected it for sure and wasn't surprised when she told me. My first thought was......."Oh I hope it's another boy"...ha ha. I mean I at least had that, I have the only granddaughter...I would like to ride that wave a little longer, I rarely have had the chance to feel like anything about me made me a little more "special" than my other siblings, especially Katie. This was my one thing...now I am sure it will be swept away when we all get the call announcing "It's a Girl"!!!!!! Ugh....Oh well! Katie if you are reading this, I hope you don't take it the wrong way. Whatever the sex of the baby I'm gonna be happy for you...You just don't understand what it's like to be the older less successful, fatter, unmarried sister. LOL.

When can I have another baby? SIGH.........probably never....this is where you all feel sorry for me!!!!!

THANKS!!!!!

3 comments:

  1. I almost fell off my chair when I saw your name pop to the top of my blog list. Hooray for a blog post! Where are the photos/video of Olivia? And congrats to Katie. Another baby. And don't feel bad about the 2nd cousin to jealousy. Totally natural -- I think.

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  2. You will be a lot happier that I'm pregnant when we are at Disneyland and I'm sweaty, swollen and wearing compression stockings and can't go on all the rides with you guys.

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  3. why would that make me happy!???? i like going to disneyland with you and all the rides!!!!! this you being pregnant at disneyland isn't gonna be fun for me!!!! :( but if you me that i will be happy that it's not me pregnant at disneyland...well you'd be right about that...i can't even stand the heat when im unpregnant! i'd be a basket case if i was pregnant at disneyland in the middle of summer!

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